August 18th, 2008 by Kristina Randle, LCSW (General, OCD)
Q. OCD and People pleasing: I have been diagnosed with OCD. I have major problems with people pleasing, to the point where I do not even know my own opinions sometimes. I would never disagree with anyone or get into an argument and if I have to make a choice, I try to make one that I know would make the other person happy. My question is, is what I am describing part of my OCD or another problem entirely? Thank you.
A. You’re welcome. You ...
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August 18th, 2008 by Kristina Randle, LCSW (General, Relationships)
Q. My son is infantry and got married just before deployment to a girl that has been problems/he caught her with another guy. He had a violent break down and has been hospitalized. I don’t know what to do. He is on a long list of psychotics and mood stabilizers and anti anxiety drugs. Heavy doses and I can’t get through to the doctors for any help. When I talk to him he sounds very drugged and he says he can’t stop hurting himself ...
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August 18th, 2008 by Kristina Randle, LCSW (Relationships, Depression)
Q. We have been best friends since grade 2 (we are now in grade 11) and just recently she has become depressed and is pushing everyone away. She has stopped eating yet won’t admit it and her marks at school are going down dramatically. She kept telling me that she was sad or depressed but she wouldn't continue and say she'd already spoken about it to someone else (i asked them and she hadn't). Her mum spoke to me and another friend to say ...
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August 18th, 2008 by Kristina Randle, LCSW (Depression)
Q. I have suffered noticeable depression for 25 years which become very severe in recent times. I take 40mg of citalophram for the condition. This depression has been diagnosed as work related, but I don't believe this is case. Work may have added to the depression over the years, and it was accompanied at times by anxiety and panic attacks when I felt threatened, but feel that the fundamental underlying cause was a result of military service in Vietnam changing my nature and outlook on ...
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August 18th, 2008 by Kristina Randle, LCSW (Eating Disorders)
Q. I have only been eating few bites of food for a long period of time, and I feel constantly bloated/gassy/overly full. is it possible that the stomach would bloat out because it fills itself with gas and does not realize there is food to digest because so little is down there? Any other thoughts on the constant bloating/gassyness?
Also, I am kind of trying to recover from anorexia, I do not want to gain any weight, so I suppose I just want to maintain ...
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August 18th, 2008 by Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker (General, Relationships)
Q: I have been dating this guy I met at work for about 4 months now. We met over a year ago, but only 4 months ago decided to meet up after work, and we have been together ever since. When we first started dating, he was really open with me. He expressed his fears, insecurites, desires and asked that I be open as well. I told him how my ex-fiance and i broke up b/c i found him chatting with girls online in what ...
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August 17th, 2008 by Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker (General, Relationships)
Q: I am a 43 year old male that has been married for 20 years and have two teenage children. I was caught in an affair ten years ago but was able to keep my marriage together. I am currently having another affair with a girl I have known several years. I feel that I am falling in love with her and I know she feels that way about me. I have already hurt my wife before but am now very ...
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August 17th, 2008 by Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker (General, Depression, Therapy, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse)
Q: I know that I'm depressed it has been this way for a long time I also have issues with my mother who is a very cruel and selfish women who has been a meth addict, for most of my life and still remains one til this day, My father was there but worked 12+ hours about 6-7days a week to support the family, although I hardly saw him most days I would try to wait up for him at night, so I could ...
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August 16th, 2008 by Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker (General, Parenting & Children)
Q: When my son was born he was failure to thrive. It was not discovered until he was 2 weeks old. I was told by everyone in the hospital he was eating when he was not. During this time I was attempting breast feeding. The doctor told us we had to feed the baby every 3 hours. He would not wake up, so we were told to strip him, get him cold with a wash cloth, make him uncomfortable to get him awake enough to ...
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August 16th, 2008 by Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker (General, Relationships, Parenting & Children)
Q: My grandmother and I have always been really close. I'm 18 and I've lived with her most of my life. This past spring she became very ill, and ended up on life support for 7 weeks. I cannot explain what a traumatic experience it was, and to make matters worse, while I was trying to cope with my best friend slipping away, my family turned their back to me. I was the black sheep. They started talking behind my back, saying things like "She ...
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August 11th, 2008 by Kristina Randle, LCSW (General)
Q. Ever since I was about twelve, and possibly earlier (I remember pretending to be a mouse that was being suffocated to death by a snake when I was around nine), I have had sexual fantasies about being kidnapped and tortured... For a long time they bothered me and I was worried there was something seriously wrong with me, up until I discovered that there's a whole S&M community... But I'm still somewhat worried and very curiously about what can stem these ideas, especially at ...
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August 11th, 2008 by Kristina Randle, LCSW (General, School, Work)
Q. Recently I feel like I'm going a bit mad. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder a couple of years ago but even then i thought the diagnosis was a bit off as I don't personally think I fit the criteria. I am not particular compulsive and I don't have abandonment issues among other things. I was prescribed a number of different drugs and saw a psychologist for a while. I was hospitalised under a section a little while later and when I ...
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